Sunday, February 14, 2016
Man gives a number of reasons, but the real reason is that every person on earth was born in the image of God. Since all love emanates from God, we are born with the capacity and the desire to love and to be loved. One of the strongest connections we have with Christ is how much He loves us. Even though we are separated from Him, whenever we sense a fraction of the love He showed to us, it awakens a longing and excitement that cannot be missed.
In the bible, love is likened to God's love of the church. When someone says those simple words that seem to mean so much these days, it reveals a happiness, and a fluttery feeling that this world may interpret as love. As I have said before, love is not a fuzzy feeling. I believe that one of the reasons that such an emotion is awakened in us is that we are reminded of the love Jesus has for us and His church. I believe that before we are even born, God sets our minds in such a way that we will be able to feel emotions, and have certain ideas, and do certain things that will impact the world, and I believe one of the things He implants in us is a fragment of His love.
Christ calls us to be like Him in His love of the Church: unconditionally.
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We are to be willing to do anything for our spouse, as well as to die for them if need be. But we are not only to show our unconditional love by sacrifice, but by washing them with water through the word. We must work to bring them closer to Christ even as we grow closer to Him. True love is not simply doing anything your spouse wants, but also correcting them when they are wrong, or pointing them to bible verses when they are sad, doing devotions with them etcetera. There is more than one way to love someone like Christ. We are also to present ourselves to them "as a radiant Church". We must rid ourselves of sin while we are helping eradicate it from our spouses. We follow the example of those we love, and we have to be careful not to lead those who love us into a trap of sin.
"He who loves his wife loves himself."
I hope you have all benefited from these last several posts about love. I have learned a lot, myself by researching for them. Maybe I'll do one next about being single? Drop some comments and let me know your opinions on the subject.
Happy Valentines Day, and God bless.
Saturday, February 13, 2016
"In the name of God, I, ______, take you, ______, to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow."
"I, ___, take you, ___, to be my husband/wife. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love and honor you all the days of my life."
There are many versions of wedding vows. The Hindus and Muslims may have a different way of saying it than a Calvinist might, but in all of these different versions, there is one constant, five words inserted near the end that change the outlook on it. 'Till death do us part'. This pledges a lifetime of all of those things. It does not allow room for "ifs", "ands", or "buts".
When someone dies, as a symbol of reverence. It is done to give the dead body dignity, and show that they are sleeping peacefully. It is a show of respect that is often awarded to the spouse to bestow. When you make the vow "till death do us part", you are telling them that you will be there to close their eyes. You will be there to make sure that they are cared for after death, and they, in turn, are making the same vow to you. There is no way that this vow could mean anything other than a promise to close the eyes of your beloved when they pass from this bleak world.
No matter what denomination or religion you come from, there will be some version of "till death do us part". That can't be a coincidence.
Friday, February 12, 2016
Love is not something that should have weather. "I will love you forever unless you ____", "I will love you for all eternity except when you___". Love is in health AND in sickness. Not just when we feel like it, or when it's easy. Love is not easy. It is hard. It is nearly impossible-no, I would say it is impossible to love someone easily. It may be easy at first, heck it may even be easy most of the time. But there is not a single relationship where it is always easy to love someone.
Despite that, we need to look to Christ in the times when it is hard, and we need to remember that He loved us even at our worst. He loved us when we were sinful, and dirty, and He was willing to make us clean. We must be willing to see the clean side of our significant other even when the obvious side is dirty. It is easy to see the side that is not so pretty especially when we are busy looking at the good side in ourselves.
What we need to remember is that none of us is blameless, and none of us can do this alone. God gave us companions because He said "It is not good for man to be alone.". He knew from the very beginning that we needed someone to have and to hold, and if that isn't a reason to fight for it, then I don't know what is.
"Love is not supposed to be easy. It is supposed to be worth it."
"What comes easy won't last, and what lasts won't come easy."
Thursday, February 11, 2016
You don't hear people talk about lies a lot these days. It's kind of a given that you are "allowed" to lie as long as it's for a good reason. How many times have you lied to your significant other because it was for a surprise, or because it was "just a little lie"? How many times have you "left out the truth" because it was "in their best interest"?
Honesty is a huge part of loving someone. It's been said that "Honesty is the highest form of intimacy". Loving someone is more than sharing secrets, it's making a promise to never lie, to always tell the truth.
There are so many instances in the bible that tell us this.
"Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth." (1 Corinthians 13:6)
" Love must be honest and true. Hate what is evil. Hold on to what is good." (Romans 12:9)
"For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit;" (1 Peter 3:10)
We must strive as people who are "taken"-and even more as Christians - to tell the truth no matter the consequences.
"Trust can only be given when honesty is guaranteed." If you are not honest with the person you love, there is not even a chance that they will ever be able to trust you. All lying does is tear apart relationships. We lie to ourselves, and we are torn apart. We lie to God, and we have sinned. We lie to our spouse, and there is a lack of trust that may never be able to be gained back.
One of the reasons I believe the people were all so drawn to Jesus when He walked among us was that He spoke truth to them. He didn't sugarcoat, He didn't lie about anything. He told them the truth, and that is what they were drawn to: Honesty.
When you tell the truth, and refuse to lie, a bond is created that could never be there otherwise.
"Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil." (Matthew 5:37)
Stay honest, and you will never have a reason not to trust the one you love.
Wednesday, February 10, 2016
God blesses us daily with His forgiveness, and thank goodness He does, because without it, we would all be in hell burning.
And begged him for one priceless gift, which I could call my own.
I took the gift from out His hand, but as I would depart
I cried, “But Lord this is a thorn and it has pierced my heart.
This is a strange, a hurtful gift, which Thou hast given me.”
He said, “My child, I give good gifts and gave My best to thee.”
I took it home and though at first the cruel thorn hurt sore,
As long years passed I learned at last to love it more and more.
I learned He never gives a thorn without this added grace,
He takes the thorn to pin aside the veil which hides His face."
All we have is ourselves. Our own merciless, sinful, pitiful, begging, ungodly, ungrateful, forgiveness-needing selves. And simply because we have been forgiven, Jesus Christ asks us to forgive others as many times as they sin against us. Because as many times as we have sinned against Him, he forgave it all.
Tuesday, February 9, 2016
However, the truth is that it only takes one to wreck a covenant."
Marriage is not Undoable.
It's not something you can go back on. Once you truly love someone, heart and soul, you can't undo it. There's nothing that can change it. This goes back to several of the other things I've been talking about. Love, and marriage is a packaged deal, it is a promise, and a vow. Once you are married, it is no longer an option to fall out of love.
Just like when Christ died on the cross, He will not undo His sacrifice, we must be unwilling to even entertain the idea of divorce.
Similar to words, once it is said and done, you can't take it back. It is non-negotiable. Many consider divorce as an option, but once you are married, once you have promised, vowed to cherish forever and ever till death do you part, divorce is not a thing. It isn't even close to being a thing. It is non-existent.
"Till death do we part". There is no room in that sentence for "but he hurt my feelings" or "but what if I get tired of him". Till death do we part. That's it.
Monday, February 8, 2016
When you marry someone you can't marry them just for their body, or just for their looks, or sense of humor. You marry them for everything. Good days and bad days. Laughter and anger. Sweet things and bitter things.
You love their body and soul.
Jesus gave us an example to follow when He died for us. He died not because we were good, but because we were not. "But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."
'While we were yet sinners.' Not 'once we were good enough' or 'when we were ready' or 'once we could cope on our own', No, 'while we were yet sinners.' Christ loved us and still loves us for our good and bad days, laughter and anger, sweet things and bitter things. He loves and cares for us despite all of our flaws. Despite the fact that we will never be able to repay Him for all the things He has done for us.
And so, just as He accepts that about us, we need to respect our spouses. Flaws and superiorities.
Sunday, February 7, 2016
Love is a work of art that is constructed after what Christ did for us. He hung Himself on a cross for us, knowing full well the pain and agony He would be in.
He is the original lover. He was the first, and He will be the last. Jesus Christ is the model after which all love should be modeled. We should aspire to love as long and well as Jesus has. Love is a sacrifice that He willingly made for us. "Greater love has no man than this that he lay down his life for his friends." Jesus did all that. He doesn't need to prove His love to us anymore. He already has. He died for us, He bled for us, He cried to show us that it's okay to cry, He literally went through hell and back so we wouldn't have to, and He loves us more than any earthly father could love a child. He had no thought for Himself when He came down, willingly to be in pain worse than we can imagine.
"One of the primary characteristics of godly love, however, is that it is focused more upon others than upon ourselves. Did you notice verse 5 above? It says that love “is not self-seeking.” Indeed, Jesus said, “Greater love has no one than this: that he lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13). Of course, this is exactly the type of love that Jesus showed for us! And this is the type of love that we need to show to our spouses as well."
Our love in a Godly relationship should be as that of Christ and His church. The ultimate bride and groom. The first ever marriage bond. When we promise to love and cherish someone, we are promising to be as Christ-like as possible. Whether that means holding someone late at night like He does, or forgiving where it is not deserved as per His example. When we slip on that wedding ring, we are making a vow that we will walk like Christ did, and love...love like He did His church. We are promising that we are willing to lay down our lives for our spouse-to walk through hell and back again to make sure they are safe and will not have to tolerate pain anymore.
We are promising to honor them, and speak to them, to be loyal, and to grow closer each day to Christ, and thereby to our spouse.
"There are no quick fixes to growing in godly love. Spiritual growth is much like physical growth: it’s a process that takes time. But just as physical growth is helped by solid nourishment, so too is spiritual growth. Here are two avenues that will provide some solid nourishment for our spiritual growth in love in marriage.
Getting to know Jesus – Jesus is the perfect model of selfless love. In Ephesians 5:25, husbands in particular are commanded to follow Jesus’ example as they seek to love their wives. If we would seek to love like Jesus, we need to be serious about getting to know Jesus more intimately. This happens through good fellowship with other Christians, reading God’s Word, and prayer. Again, this is not a “quick fix”. It is a process that takes time. But it will aid us greatly in learning to love with a godly love.
Relying upon the Holy Spirit – love is explicitly called a fruit of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22). As a result, godly love is not something that we muster up in our own strength. Instead, it is something that God Himself empowers us to do by His Holy Spirit. This means that we need to look to God in repentance and faith on a day-by-day basis for the strength of His Holy Spirit."There is no way to be completely like Christ. He is perfect, and forever, and though every model has defects, He never did, and He never will. He is...the perfect bridegroom, and the church is meant to be His perfect bride. Model your marriage after Christ, and His bride, and you will never need to hesitate to say you love your soul mate.Sweet dreams, gems.Marisa
Saturday, February 6, 2016
"So we are given such strength to keep that promise by a Maker who knows that we can…even under the most trying of circumstances (Hosea). God demonstrated that it was possible to love even the adulterous nation of Israel and by such love to lead them back to restoration of their covenant marriage.
As the brother of leading Christian apologist, Ravi Zacharias, explained to him on the eve of his own marriage: “Write this down and don’t ever forget it. If you will to love someone, you can.”."
The world tempts us to believe that in order to love someone, we must know them. We read in stories about arranged marriages in which people are unhappy.
Ravi Zacharias reassures us that "If you will to love someone, you can".
Love is always possible. But you have to be willing to promise it, and dedicate your life to it, first.
Thursday, February 4, 2016
"Christian love is not a warm, fuzzy feeling that believers try to “work up” so they can love others. It is practical! Love is about meeting needs."
True love is not a warm fuzzy feeling. It's not something you feel for a little while, and it's not something that can go away. If you truly love someone, it lasts forever.
It is a popular idea today that...when you love someone,...it is temporary. That love...love is just an emotion, and nothing else.
For most people, when asked what love is, they will say it is an emotion because that's all they've ever known. Most people have never had the pleasure of experiencing true love, and I know this because true love never dies. True love, real, christian love is forever. It's not just a feeling that we get. It's not just that pounding heart, those shaking lips and hands, it's not just the stumbling over words, and the smiles at a gift. It's the arguments, too. It's the angry nights, the sad mornings, the loyalty, and the commitment, the "I forgive you's".
Tuesday, February 2, 2016
Love is a choice.
I watched a movie not too long ago about a girl who was kidnapped. She lived with the man for years and years, and when she finally came forward and told people what that man had done, she said "he forced me to love him and he made me stay". You cannot be forced into love. Love is not something you can learn, or change your mind about. Because love is a choice.
Love is something you choose to do.
I read something that said
" real love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person.
When all the butterflies have fluttered away and your wedding day becomes a distant memory, you will discover that you've married someone who is just as imperfect as you. And they, in turn, will come to learn that you have problems, insecurities, struggles, quirks--and body odor--just as real as theirs!
Then you will realize that real love isn't just a euphoric, spontaneous feeling--it's a deliberate choice--a plan to love each other for better and worse, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health. Of course, you don't choose who you're attracted to, but you definitely choose who you fall in love with and (more importantly) who you stay in love with."
We live in a world that tells us to follow our hearts, and that when we no longer feel a fuzzy feeling whenever we see that person's face, we are no longer in love.
'Commitment to an imperfect person', 'a deliberate choice'. Love is not something that just happens - yeah, yeah, love at first sight isn't real - it takes time. It takes many choices and many turns and twists that may throw you off track for awhile, but when it comes down to it, if you choose to love someone, and they choose to love you, only the love of God will make you any happier.
Have a blessed night. Sweet dreams.
Monday, February 1, 2016
Love is commitment.
True love is not something tangible. It's not something you can touch. It's a mutual agreement between the two people that they will always stay committed. They will never leave each other or forsake one another. There will not be anyone else. It is one girl, and one boy who are completely and fully committed to never leaving the other person's side. "Till death do us part".
Love is not something you can throw away. If you " don't love" someone anymore, you never did. Because love is commitment, and when you are committed, you don't lie, or cheat, or go to someone else. You are loyal. You are loving, and selfless knowing going into the relationship that till death do you part, you are with that person forever. Sickness, health, decay, anger, sadness, when they are lovable, and when they are not so lovable. True love is patient, and kind, and sweet and true.
Sorry it was a bit short, and sorry I posts late. Many blessings.