Love is a choice.
I watched a movie not too long ago about a girl who was kidnapped. She lived with the man for years and years, and when she finally came forward and told people what that man had done, she said "he forced me to love him and he made me stay". You cannot be forced into love. Love is not something you can learn, or change your mind about. Because love is a choice.
Love is something you choose to do.
I read something that said
" real love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person.
When all the butterflies have fluttered away and your wedding day becomes a distant memory, you will discover that you've married someone who is just as imperfect as you. And they, in turn, will come to learn that you have problems, insecurities, struggles, quirks--and body odor--just as real as theirs!
Then you will realize that real love isn't just a euphoric, spontaneous feeling--it's a deliberate choice--a plan to love each other for better and worse, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health. Of course, you don't choose who you're attracted to, but you definitely choose who you fall in love with and (more importantly) who you stay in love with."
We live in a world that tells us to follow our hearts, and that when we no longer feel a fuzzy feeling whenever we see that person's face, we are no longer in love.
'Commitment to an imperfect person', 'a deliberate choice'. Love is not something that just happens - yeah, yeah, love at first sight isn't real - it takes time. It takes many choices and many turns and twists that may throw you off track for awhile, but when it comes down to it, if you choose to love someone, and they choose to love you, only the love of God will make you any happier.
Have a blessed night. Sweet dreams.